There seems to be some symbiotic relationship between responsibility and kindness, even though each has its distinctive nature and the purpose it serves. Responsibility has some elements of obligation to it, while kindness, as a strong pillar of love expression, is mainly voluntary and sacrificial. At the intersections of both, they provide a synergic effect that cannot be overemphasized.
What is the nature of responsibility, and why is it primarily obligatory?
- It may be imposed by law. For instance, in a marriage leading to divorce, the law may make it mandatory to pay child support and/or alimony. A violation of such responsibility attracts serious consequences.
- It may be ethical to comply. Some ethically imposed obligations compel responsibility on a person. For example, membership in a voluntary organization may require members to contribute some hours of volunteering.
- Contractual requirements. Even though some obligations are legally imposed, verbal contracts may still impose responsibilities. An employment agreement is a good example, even when no formal letter is issued.
- Promise. It is often said that “a promise is a debt when not fulfilled.” Once a promise is made, it becomes a responsibility to fulfill it, even if made in ignorance. Promises made under duress may be challenged but require proof.
- Other considerations. Religious obligations and societal expectations can impose responsibilities. Failure to fulfill them may lead to being ostracized from the group.
Responsibility is obligatory in nature, but there is no shortage of people who try to avoid performing their obligations.
Kindness and its Nature
Kindness is often born out of empathy and genuine sacrifice. As illustrated in the story of the Good Samaritan, kindness is a disposition to help others, even when it comes at a personal cost. It is one of the strongest pillars through which genuine love is expressed. Kindness is not necessarily a product of pity, but more of sincere concern for others.
What are the elements of kindness, and why is it borne out of love?
- Empathy. The ability to place oneself in another person’s situation is a strong trigger for kindness, even toward strangers.
- Sacrifice. Kindness is often expressed through sacrificial giving, not just out of surplus or abundance.
- Love. Kindness is a product of love. It is hard not to be kind to someone we truly love. Love without kindness is incomplete and fake. True kindness is more aligned with agape love than other forms of love.
What is the relationship between responsibility and kindness?
- Though kindness is voluntary, it often takes kindness to fulfill some responsibilities without grumbling or resistance.
- Despite being obligatory, the continuous fulfillment of responsibilities is often sustained by kindness, making the burden lighter.
- Where kindness is lacking, fulfilling responsibilities over time becomes difficult and may lead to avoidance.
A Note on the Abuse of Kindness
Kindness is frequently abused. Kind people are often taken for granted or even exploited. Some people fabricate stories just to deceive kind-hearted individuals.
- It takes a sense of responsibility not to abuse the kindness extended to you, especially by strangers.
- Responsibility helps restrain people from defrauding others who have shown them kindness.
- Therefore, there is strong reinforcement between responsibility and kindness. Observing both makes for a better and more fulfilling life.
- It is advisable to approach all responsibilities with kindness and to express kindness with conscious responsibility. This helps avoid abuse or being taken advantage of. Let our actions always find expression in love.
Your thoughts and experiences are welcome.